
My Life As A Blog — Guest Post By . . .
Blogger: Amber Doty
Blog: The Daily Doty
Twitter: Amber_Doty
I wrote my first blog post twelve years ago at the age of fifteen. I didn’t know it was a blog post at the time. In fact, it would be many years before the term “blog” would become a part of my vocabulary. To me it was an exciting new twist on one of my favorite pastimes — journaling — and its discovery brought an end to my love affair with spiral bound notebooks and colored gel pens. Something appealed to me about opening my life up to the world. Actually, the first platform I used was a site aptly named Open Diary.
Unfortunately, (or perhaps fortunately) the physical act of writing wasn’t the only love affair my new found hobby ended. My very first post was a detailed account of a date with a boyfriend. Since his access to the internet was limited, I printed it out and handed it to him in class the next morning, I beamed as I watched his eyes move across the page, high on the novel idea of allowing others to read the thoughts in my head.
“Wait. You put this on the internet, like, where anyone can read it? Total strangers?”
“Yes. Isn’t that cool?”
“No, Amber. That’s…bizarre.”
Not long after that I found myself blogging our break up.
Like many teenagers, I was fickle and easily bored. I moved from site to site — Diaryland, LiveJournal, Xanga. I was a blogging nomad in those early years, but my love for writing was steadfast. So much so that a few months before graduation I shared with my mother my plan to major in journalism or English in college in the Fall.
Visibly mortified, she took an afternoon to talk me out of it. Writing was a hobby, not a career, she assured me. I could always write in the evenings, but I needed a job that would guarantee I could pay my bills.
Four years later, I graduated with a bachelor of science in chemistry. I landed a job at a major pharmaceutical company and I spent the next few years in like not love. I drafted technical memorandums, detailed experiments, and authored protocols. I had the financial security my mother promised was the stepping stone, if not the key, to happiness, but I felt like an impostor each morning when I pulled on my white lab coat.
In August of 2009, on a particularly sleepless night three years into my career as a scientist, I began what would become my permanent home on the internet, The Daily Doty. At the time, I intended it to be a place where I could flex my atrophied creative muscles by recording stories about my children to share with friends and family. For a year and a half I chronicled our lives and I found this thing I finally knew as “blogging” to be even more fulfilling as an adult than it was as a teenager.
I quickly became consumed not just by the act of writing my own site, but in reading those of others and it was through another blog that I learned about Sarah Bryden-Brown.
Blogstar, then Momoir, was in its infancy. Sarah’s first project would be an e-book anthology of stories by women bloggers and she was looking for submissions. I had never submitted anything to anyone before outside of a book report, but the topic Stories I’ve Only Told My Mom appealed to me and on day of the deadline I gathered my courage and sent in a story attached to a lengthy disclaimer disguised as an email alerting her to my amateur status.
I imagined her laughing as she read my story, red pen in hand, but instead she wrote me back and asked if she could include it in her e-book.
This is going to sound dramatic, but that e-mail changed my life. For the first time in years I began to view writing as a possible path for my life. I decided chemistry was a detour and I spent the next few months as a scientist by day and a freelance writer and blogger by night.
I reached out to other bloggers and asked for advice. I gathered my courage and emailed the editors of websites I longed to contribute to. I wrote a very lot and slept a very little. Persistence paid off and I slowly collected enough writing gigs to go part time at my day job. I am now a regular contributor to Curvy Girl Guide and Babble as well as Kirtsy.
My position as editor and contributor of Curvy Girl Guide has been particularly amazing and has shown me that blogging can create opportunities far beyond the computer screen. I spent the past four days in New York City promoting National Swimsuit Confidence Week in partnership with Lands’ End. It is an initiative close to my heart tasked with boosting the self-esteem of women and reinforcing a positive body image and one that Curvy Girl Guide co-owner Brittany Gibbons and I were willing to stand in our bathing suits in the middle of Times Square and appear on national television in order to support.
Blogging has been a sometimes stressful, mostly amazing journey for me over the years, but it is my most recent endeavor that has empowered me to take the plunge and turn it into my full-time career.
Last week I finally resigned from my job as a scientist to embark on a mighty adventure with Sarah Bryden-Brown, Laura Mayes, and Maggie Mason.
Like Sarah, it’s my “What’s Next.” In my experience, the very best things are created when bloggers join forces and I cannot wait to get started.
I hope you enjoyed Amber’s post, which is part of an on-going series on Blogstar. If you would like to contribute your own My Life As A Blog post, please email me at sbrydenbrown[at]gmail[dot]com.
That’s amazing that your very first blog was so long ago at the age of 15! You were right there at the beginning of that thing, ‘blogging’. And Sarah is so very generous – I’m not surprised she chose you for her e-book. Congrats on all your success.
Agree. Generous is the most perfect word for Sarah. Also, smart. That’s not flattery. That is fact.
Amber – I’m sitting here beaming – I am so happy and excited for you! Go Mighty sounds amazing and the team is lucky to have your talents – cannot wait to see what happens next!
Thank you, Sheri. You are always so supportive. It means a lot to me.
Oh Amber! You are my hero!
And it’s so funny that writing would be your second career because when I read your blog it’s SO clear to me that you. are . a. writer.
LOVED this to pieces. Go Amber go!!
xo
Caroline Urdaneta telling ME I’m HER hero? That’s the kind of thing that will make my whole week. You, my friend, are the maker of so many gorgeous things and so I take your opinion to heart. Thank you.
Wonderful piece! All of us who enjoy your writing are glad to see you dedicate yourself to it. I’d wish you luck but I don’t think you’ll need it.
Korinthia, thank you, thank you for always making me feel welcome around here.
I stand in your shadow of Awesome.
Never. Nobody puts Angie in the shadows.
Amber! I am beyond excited for you. You are such an amazing writer and I know that your what’s next will be awesome. Congratulations on taking the leap! xoxo
Melanie, I am so excited to have you making this leap with me in parallel. Don’t be surprised when my name pops up in your email box. Those who take giant leaps need good company like you.
No way. Amber, you are my hero. Seriously. So glad you’re powering ahead with such success!
Thanks, Robin. I really appreciate your support. I hope we run into each other in person again soon. I know this year is a busy one for you.
Amber this is fantastic news! Go Mighty sounds nothing short of amazing with such a fabulous team! As I leave my teaching career to follo what adventures I can pursue in this space, your experience and serve as a great example of where the future can take you.
Elena, you, Melanie, and I should keep in touch! We are a trio of women embarking on the same journey. Glad to hear that you are pursuing what you love as well!
Amber, that is so exciting. I am happy for you and enjoyed reading about your journey. It confirms for me the wisdom of the advice I have been giving my 21-year-old, who is a creative writing major (I was an English Major so she got no argument from me!). I have advised her when she graduates to get a job, just enough to pay the bills, not a distracting career, and spend as much time as possible writing if that is what she wants to do.
Leslie, yes! I think my mom feels, in a way, like she steered me wrong when I tell this story, but honestly if I hadn’t majored in chemistry there’s no way I would be at the place I am at right now. It is time to step away from it, but it has also enabled me to do what I love all these years.
Best of luck to your daughter!
I have to admit, I feel a little bad for Science. But Science has delayed public access to jetpacks for too long, and I still haven’t been to the moon, so Science was kind of asking for it. And what’s more, delayed public access to space travel is a small price to pay for having you on board. Welcome, sweets. Can’t wait to roll our sleeves up over a bottle of bubbly.